SELF ESTEEM / WORTH

This is in my opinion one of the most ignored areas of getting into the right mindset. Everything comes down to how we feel about ourselves.

The better we feel about ourselves, the better we do, PERIOD.

How many times have you had a little bit of success and all of a sudden something magically cuts in that leads onto a little more. Well that little piece of magic is your momentary belief in yourself. Why do I say momentary? Believe it or not it lasts until you realise what it is, and then you input all the reasons as to why you either cannot really do it, or somehow don’t deserve it.

We are the enemy and no one can be more destructive to our success than us.We need constant reminders that we are actually worthy or successful, the thing is that when we are successful we do not question our worth, but the doubts just seem to  stay hidden because our beliefs [ confidence ] in our selves is high.

I think one of the best illustrations of this is, in the sales area where people have to overcome the fear of rejection. Being repeatedly told NO is a real dampener on our self esteem, so someone worked out, or made up the fact that on average you would hear 10 NO’s to every YES before you made a sale. What they did then is made a NO, an integral part of getting a YES and said that every NO, was a success, because it would take you nearer your desired result. So subliminally every time some one refused your offer, you felt good about yourself because it actually took you closer to the sale. The real kicker here is that if you got a YES in under 10 No’s you somehow felt even better about yourself and moving on after that gave you a real high about your ability.

Can you see how important our self esteem is in all this? Once we tell ourselves that a refusal or NO is a good thing, we get more confident every time we hear it. What has changed? Nothing, simply our perception of a NO. Actually using what was up until now a huge barrier, as a boost, just shows the power of self esteem. In truth we are only a heart beat away from falling down, and if we stop and just give ourself some doubt , we immediately reset our thoughts to the fact that NO is bad.

The biggest problem with self esteem is that the route downwards is as rapid as the route to success, if we allow ourselves to agree with our subconscious failings. Once things start turning sour, we look for reasons and we always feel that it is a lack of ability or knowledge that is the culprit.

We look at others and start judging our position with theirs and we start envying their lifestyle etc. The more we look around the more we see people that are having more fun than us, earning more money than us, are happier than us and altogether enjoying their life more than us. It does not matter how much we search for a balance, we are not as good as them in any area and we are convinced that they are blissfully happy and have all the answers, and we are just a total loser.

Go down a few more notches into the, I really am no good area and add more fuel to the mounting evidence, that you really have no place here and should actually just creep about making excuses for your existence. Ever been there? I have met many people that are in this position and it is actually a comparitively easy state to release your self from, if you are willing to allow your subconscious to help. The very voices and limiting beliefs that got you into this state are going to be your friends and allies on the way up.

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