Croz Worry Free Island

A lecturer when explaining stress management to an audience,
Raised a glass of water and asked
‘How heavy is this glass of water?’

Answers called out ranged from 20g to 500g.

The lecturer replied, ‘The absolute weight doesn’t matter.
It depends on how long you try to hold it.
If I hold it for a minute, that’s not a problem..
If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my right arm.
If I hold it for a day, you’ll have to call an ambulance.
In each case, it’s the same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes.’

He continued,
‘And that’s the way it is with stress management.
If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later,
As the burden becomes increasingly heavy,
We won’t be able to carry on. ‘

‘As with the glass of water,
You have to put it down for a while and rest before holding it again..
When we’re refreshed, we can carry on with the burden.’
‘So, before you return home tonight, put the burden of work down. Don’t carry it home. You can pick it up tomorrow.

Whatever burdens you’re carrying now,
Let them down for a moment if you can.’
So, my friend, Put down anything that may be a burden to you right now. Don’t pick it up again until after you’ve rested a while.

Here are some great ways of dealing with the burdens of life:

* Accept that some days you’re the pigeon,
And some days you’re the statue.

* Always keep your words soft and sweet,
Just in case you have to eat them.

* Always wear stuff that will make you look good
If you die in the middle of it.

* Drive carefully. It’s not only cars that can be
“Recalled” by their maker.

* If you can’t be kind, at least have the decency to be vague.

* If you lend someone $20 and never see that person again,
It was probably worth it.

* It may be that your sole purpose in life is simply to be kind to others.

* Never put both feet in your mouth at the same time,
Because then you won’t have a leg to stand on.

* Nobody cares if you can’t dance well.
Just get up and dance.

* Since it’s the early worm that gets eaten by the bird, sleep late.

* The second mouse gets the cheese.

* When everything’s coming your way,
You’re in the wrong lane.

* Birthdays are good for you.
The more you have, the longer you live.

* You may be only one person in the world,
But you may also be the world to one person.

* Some mistakes are too much fun to only make once.

* We could learn a lot from crayons… Some are sharp, some are pretty and some are dull. Some have weird names, and all are different colors, but they all have to live in the same box.

*A truly happy person is one who can enjoy the scenery on a detour.

Have an awesome day and know that someone has thought about you today…I did …

What a crazy place we have created and I blame my generation more than most. In our attempt to create peace and harmony we have destroyed many  relationships that had worked adequately for thousands of years.

One of the craziest things that we did was to try and bring our children up as our friends. We did not smack them, we decided it would be good if they had everything that we felt we were deprived of, we attempted to reason with them on our level etc. infact we created a whole generation of very confused people.

Whether we like it or not our lives are much better and more fulfilling, if we know’ the rules’ They are simple, but some times we allow our feelings and agendas to get in the way.

It never ceases to amaze me how we totally changed all ‘the rules’ and then became so surprised when things started to go wrong.

As humans our brains evolved to give us lots of abilities and choices that nothing else in nature had. Most other things in the natural world were created with an inbuilt programme, as to how their existence would be. An oak tree for example never starts to grow and then after a while decides it would like to be some other type of tree. I have nothing against free will but it needs to be used correctly. It is because of all the things readily available now, that we become like a child in a sweet shop and seem to change direction much quicker than ever before.

Why have we decided to grow inside a box where we set false limitations on ourselves? We came up with the idea of letting our children decide what to do with regards day to day events with out giving them guidance, yet we spend their formative years reprogramming their in built masterplan.

Each of us arrive with our master plan embedded firmly in our brain. Then it starts to go wrong. As parents we can’t wait until baby can walk, and as soon as they can we restrict them in a play pen [ cage ] and when we take them out, we put them in reins [ lead ]  Then our next big celebration is when baby can talk and we get really excited about being able to relate in this new way with the child. Unfortunately as soon as the child has the ability to speak, it is programmed to start exploring and finding out how things work, and what do we do then? Yep! we tell it to be quiet or shut up. Can you see what messages we are sending out.

Have you ever wondered one of the reasons you do things is directly related to who you think you are?

I find that a major problem is coping with who we present to the outside world and who we actually are. This was illustrated to me when I was talking to a client the other day. He had been very successful in a certain field and had many years ago left the corporate jungle to try and make a go of things on his own. After many years he admitted that although the outward persona portrayed one of success and affluence the real person inside, was far from happy with the results he was achieving.

This is a classic situation where you limit your, movements and actions, because you do not change the person you are presenting, to match the person you are. In effect you have this new business person inside who needs all the help and assistance he can get, yet you are still presenting a successful person on the outside. The conflict here is obvious, the person you are portraying from your previous life, does not[or at least thinks it does not] need any assistance in the area that you are seeking advice, and therefore you feel uncomfortable asking the questions because subconsciously you feel a failure.

This is not such a problem when you create an image on the way up because you are always subconsciously presenting messsages that are in agreement with how you feel about yourself. There are obviously dangers here though, because in some cases, you get a higher opinion of yourself, in the outside persona and once again you have a conflict.The real you does not readily accept the situations and actions that the outside you performs. That is when you become a bit of a show off or start bragging about who you are or what you have.

As you can see self esteem is so important and I believe that low self esteem and high self esteem are both equally harmful. Low self esteem will stop you doing things and high self esteem allows you to do things that you possibly should not. Some where slap bang in the middle is perfect and then you have a little movement either way that can be absorbed with out too much trouble.

It is important that we balance the person we present to the outside world, and the person we really are. Once we have done that things really start to change.

How often do you take stock of what you have got in life, rather than moaning about what you have not got?

We are all guilty of just accepting things and not truly appreciating them, assuming that they will always be there. It may be a good time to check out now what you have but do not really appreciate.

The big thing in our lives that we usually just take for granted, is our family, because they have always been there, we just accept their presence, but do not really place any value on them. I can hear you all mumbling, he’s finally lost it, but how many times do we ignore our family to work a bit longer, to enable us to buy another possession. How many times do we say to ourselves, as soon as I have paid off this or that , I will then be able to take the kids to the sports day or some other activity that will never present itself again.

In our mind we are justifying our actions to suit ourselves, and if we are not very careful, our lives become a collection of habits. Everytime we say when I have done this, I will do that, we are getting further away from the thing we really wanted to do.
We form a habit and that then becomes the norm, until eventually we are living our lives doing things we do not want to do, in an effort to get to a position where we can do what we want to do.

Unfortunately, by the time you are in a position to do what you want to do, it becomes almost impossible to break the habitual life that you have created to get there. It is really scary when you actually evaluate your life and consider all the sacrifices you make, to give your family a better life, and in the final analysis you create something that does not even come close to resembling your vision.

In most situations, by the time you have created, the environment that you strived for, at the expense of your family, the family is so fragmented, that you all appear strangers. This is when you find out what is important, the problem is it is too late, the kids have found their own lives, your partner has also created a life around what has been happening and you are left there scratching your head wondering what on earth has happened.

It is unfair, but society is changing at such a rate that we have to do so much more now, just to standstill. We should all assess our situation now and check if we are on course to get what we are striving for. If you are just looking to create an environment that impresses the neighbours, that is fine, but if you think that you are creating a happy, bonded, loving family in the future, have a real good look at things.

The most profound thing I have learnt is that most of us do not start living until we are told we are going to die. A very dear friend has got cancer and is on a very short countdown. It seems that if we are told we have only a while left to live, we start raking over things we have not done and regretting things that we should have done. I sort of had this together after my brother died unexpectedly about 10 years ago at age 53. We talked and it seemed very easy recalling our younger years, the time that he found emotional were the years of marriage and raising a family.

It seemed that all the things he regretted, were actually things that he could have done, had he just relaxed and not paid too much attention to the details and how things MAY turn out.

It seems we are all governed by caution, but in retrospect, in so many cases, that caution has stopped us doing what we really wanted to do. I think really it all comes down to allowing ourselves to be a little reckless sometimes.

If you really think about it, we spend so much time thinking about a Utopia in the future, that we actually forget to live in the now. So in effect we are willing to lose now, to strive to get to a place that we know nothing about. I say we know nothing about, and that is true, we know all the good things, but do not really consider the negatives involved. Will we arrive having lost all our friends?, because we ignored them, in an effort to earn enough money to get to Utopia. Will we have forgotten to relate and interact with our family?, because we intend to make everything OK when we arrive. Will we have become a bit of a bore ourselves?, in our effort to get to this unknown place. It is strange that we all tend to try and get to somewhere different, and always seem a little dissatisfied, where we are.

My philosophy, is that if we just tried to live in the now, and put more effort into now, instead of imagining that we can put the things we are missing on hold, maybe NOW will become the place you are looking for. The only way you can be truly happy in Utopia is if you have all the things you cherish with you. If you lose all these things on your way through, Utopia just becomes a very sad and lonely place.

As I have always said, I LOVE MONEY and all the things it allows me to do, but I do not think that it can do anything to make me happy. By that I mean, if you are miserable, getting a huge amount of money may settle some debt and buy you some treats, but in the long term, it will not make you happy. You will just become an unhappy person with money.

A real strange thing that I have discovered, is that when I am happy and relaxed, the money to do the things I want to do, just seems to arrive. It seems that if the intensity is removed, the flood gates open. If you chase anything it will take evasive action and resist getting caught. That goes for the opposite sex, money, possessions and anything else you would like to mention. So just try relaxing and see what happens.

Make your life now as good as you can, cherish your family and friends, help others less fortunate, have a vision and dream, but get there with everything intact. If you do this, you will be happy all along the journey and most important wherever you get to will be the right place.

Have you really ever considered, that there are lots of people that would regard your life as Utopia.

As much as possible do the things that you want to do now.

Something else that has become very clear to me over the last few weeks, is the fact that you really cannot give without getting a return. Please do not read into that, that I ever give with the expectations of a return, but while I have been organising the talks, people have shown such kindness, and also displayed hidden talents that have really amazed me. In a lot of cases, when I have asked them what I owe them, they say “That’s OK” you did so and so for me years ago. It has been really humbling, and it is nice to get real life proof, relating to these universal laws.

Another thing that is becoming evermore clear on a daily basis, is the stress and pressure we work and live under, and just accept it as normal. Since totally removing myself from the normal workforce, I have been shocked to the feelings I get, when I walk back into places I used to visit regularly in the course of my business. They actually have a feeling of stress in the air, the worry is that when you are stressed to the same level, you do not notice any difference. How different life is when you actually step back from things and really assess what is going on.

Well I hope there is a little something in this update that will ring some bells. In the meantime get working on your life NOW not on an imagined one in the future

It is so exciting to have the teachings of Wallace all of a sudden becoming mainstream and being brought to millions more people.

Just as an observation, I would like to say to everyone, DO NOT GET CARRIED AWAY.

I have seen the all the TV shows and it is good that SOGR principles are being discussed. The problem as I see it, is that it is being presented as something that you JUST DO and everything will happen.

This is a double edged sword. If millions of people think that with no study and no guidance on how to control their thoughts and help to go through the very real testing times,what successes will result?

As most of you know, there are times when it all seems too hard and we fall off the horse. It takes time to actually get your faith and belief firmly established. That is the REAL SECRET, once you realise the power and get your faith working with you EVERYTHING falls into place.

Although all the so called experts seem to have experienced great happenings, they,in certain instances imply that all you have to do is think and it will happen. We all know different and that is that sometimes we think we are focused, but our main thought subliminally is something else, or even doubt.

Both of these situations will negate your thought.

What I am trying to say is that, I am glad that these teachings have been brought to the attention of the masses, but the way to handle and control them should not be trivialised.

I feel that the study behind the apparent simplistic approach should be mentioned, so that this wave of euphoria does not do more harm than good.

It is like selling a toy without any instructions, if you are lucky enough to know how it works fine, but if you do not know how to make it work, will you say, it does not work?

I have got so much out of these teachings and I continue to get fantastic results at my seminars and classes, but I see first hand the importance of support.

The other thing to consider is that Wallace says, stick to his teachings until you GET IT, do not confuse yourself by trying to follow loads of different methods. Just choose one and stay with it.

At the moment we are being bombarded with the views of many people with different ways of looking at and teaching the same lessons. This in itself will create more confusion.

My advice, once you are experiencing the results you require, you can then read and follow anything or anyone without getting confused
10 June 2010 > You are the enemy.
Remember that ultimately you are in control. Allowing incorrect…

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